Curious About Sharing the Buzz?
Adding sex toys to your relationship can feel like stepping into a whole new world of pleasure—exciting, empowering, and yes, even a little nerve-wracking. If you've never used sex toys with a partner before, the idea might feel awkward to bring up. Will they be into it? Will they think they’re being replaced? Will it feel weird?
But here’s the good news: it doesn’t have to be complicated, cringe, or intimidating. With the right approach, introducing toys can enhance intimacy, open new lines of communication, and supercharge your connection.
At Shhh!Box, we believe pleasure should be fun, safe, and confidently explored. So let’s break it down: how to talk about toys, how to choose your first couple’s sex toy, and how to really enjoy using them together.
TL;DR
- Have a relaxed, open chat with your partner about trying toys.
- Reassure them that toys are about adding to pleasure, not replacing anyone.
- Shop together—exploring online can be part of the fun.
- Start small with beginner-friendly toys like bullet vibes, rings, or lubes.
- Use plenty of lube (water-based for silicone toys!) and read the instructions.
- Try toys on different erogenous zones, and go slow if it’s your first time.
- Don’t forget to communicate and laugh—it’s meant to be fun!
Why Sex Toys Are Actually Great for Relationships
Using sex toys as a couple isn’t just a kink, it’s a relationship boost. Research has shown that couples who explore new experiences together report higher relationship satisfaction, more emotional connection, and increased sexual confidence. Even owning a sex toy together can help you feel more connected and adventurous in bed.
Another bonus? More orgasms. Let’s talk facts: only about 18% of people with vulvas can climax through vaginal intercourse alone. Most need clitoral stimulation, and sex toys make that a lot easier, especially during penetrative sex. Vibrators, rings, and suction toys can help you come together, literally.
Talking About Sex Toys With Your Partner
The first step? Start the conversation with curiosity and compassion. Here’s how to do it without making things awkward:
1. Pick the Right Moment
Choose a time when you're both relaxed and distraction-free—maybe cuddling in bed, after a steamy shower, or during a cheeky glass of wine. Avoid springing it on them mid-stress or during a rushed moment.
2. Use “I” Statements
Try:
💬 “I read this article about using toys together, and I think it could be really fun for us to try something new.”
💬 “I’ve been curious about using a vibrator during sex—would you be open to exploring that with me?”
3. Emphasise Togetherness
Make it clear that this is about shared pleasure: not boredom, not dissatisfaction, and definitely not replacement. Think of toys as an upgrade—not a threat.
4. Be Ready to Listen
Your partner might be curious, unsure, excited, or even a little hesitant. That’s all okay. Validate how they feel, share what excites you, and focus on exploration rather than expectation.
Ready to Explore? Shop Together
Browsing sex toys online together can be foreplay in itself. At Shhh!Box, our clean, discreet website lets you explore luxury vibrators, couples’ kits, anal toys, and bondage accessories at your own pace—without awkward shop lighting or shelves of neon rubber.
Here’s what to look for as a first step:
Beginner-Friendly Couple’s Toys:
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Bullet Vibrators – Small, quiet, and versatile. Perfect for clitoral, nipple, or perineum play.
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Cock Rings – Add vibration and extra firmness for both partners during penetrative sex.
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Remote-Control Love Eggs – Great for hands-free fun, and exciting public play.
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Massage Candles – Melt into warm oil for sensual foreplay.
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Water-Based Lubes – Must-have for comfort, glide, and toy longevity.
How to Use Sex Toys as a Couple (Without the Pressure)
Once you've picked something you're both excited to try, it’s time to unbox the pleasure.
Set the Scene
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Clean sheets, low lighting, and no rush.
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Dim the lights, play a sultry playlist, and lay your toys out on the bed.
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Maybe try a massage candle or warming lube as foreplay before the toys come out.
Go Slow and Check In
Start on the lowest settings. Test the toy on less sensitive areas—inner thighs, nipples, backs of knees—before heading for the genitals. Ask:
💬 “How does that feel?”
💬 “Want me to go faster/slower?”
This is a chance to tune into each other’s bodies in new ways.
Don’t Skip the Lube
Lube isn't just for anal—it makes everything feel better. Use plenty and often.
✅ Pro tip: Always match your lube to your toy—water-based for silicone toys, silicone-based for glass/metal toys.
Explore All the Hot Spots
It’s not all about penetration. Use your toys:
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On nipples, necks, or inner wrists
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Along the perineum or shaft
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During oral sex to add extra sensation
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With hand jobs or mutual masturbation for a deeper connection
Masturbate Together
Watching your partner use a toy (or using one on them) can be an incredibly intimate and arousing experience. It’s a great way to learn what they love—and build anticipation before trying it on each other.
Try:
- Wands for vulva and back stimulation
- Strokers or vibrating sleeves for penises
- Rabbit vibrators for dual stimulation
- Butt plugs or prostate massagers for anal play (always with lube + flared bases!)
Try Toys During Penetration
Want to climax together more easily? Add a bullet vibe to your clitoris or perineum during penetration. Or wear a vibrating ring—many are designed to stimulate both partners at once.
Looking for something more intense? Use strapless strap-ons, remote control plugs, or G-spot wands for deeper, more powerful sensations.
Safety, Cleaning, and Consent
- Always read the instructions (yes, really).
- Wash your toys after each use with mild soap or a toy cleaner.
- Store them in a clean, dry place.
- Respect boundaries—consent and comfort come first.
- Use condoms on shared or anal toys for hygiene.
Ready to Unbox Your Pleasure?
Adding toys to your relationship isn’t about fixing anything—it’s about deepening connection, enhancing sensation, and exploring what turns you both on.
Whether you’re brand new to partnered play or ready to level up your pleasure, Shhh!Box is here to help you feel confident, curious, and empowered. We deliver discreetly, quickly, and with zero judgement—so all you have to do is play.
Explore Shhh!Box Couples Sex Toys
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